TOM CRUISE

For most of his career, Tom Cruise was under the guidance of Pat Kingsley, the reknown publicist and head of PMK. His career and career moves were enormously successful. The persona the public saw was one they liked.
Tom Cruise's personality and character was carefully hidden through the guidance of Pat Kingsley. Since she fwas fired as his publicist, the carefully crafted career took a nose dive.
Interesting enough, Pat Kingley, a long time reknown publicist, also faltered. Her own firm was usurped from her by a younger and trusted partner.
Both have one thing in common. They both spent a lifetime building and establishing their respective success. Both enjoyed wonderful reputations. Finally, both of their careers went into freefall.
The building of a career happens over twenty years and the fall takes "one comment" or one day. It doesn't only happen to the "Hollywood elite", it happens in everyday life. Its a reflection of the culture.
In some cases, the reaction is not surprising. Tom Crtuise lost his female audience from his comments about Brook Shields. His insensitivy, his arrogance ( after all , he never had a baby and couldn't possibly know what it feels like)were reflected in his statement about post preganancy. The female population, representing 50% of his audience sighed a collective "ugh".
You cannot fix an "ignorant" self serving comment. Tom Cruise showed the public who he was and the public responded. Fair or unfair, the public is fast to judge. There is no room for error with the public.
Pat Kingsley had an excellent reputation and was the premier publicist for many in Hollywood. An article about her company with a story about a divide between her and a younger partner seems to have split up business leaving Pat Kingsley out of the loop.
Pat carefully guided actors for twenty years. I was sad to see her put in a bad light. She was ousted for business reasons. If what I read was true, her fall came from an agressive younger partner and not something she said or did.
Pat Kingleys situation is different from Tom Cruise. To have a reputation for so many years and to be put out by someone is a nightmare. This is a problem many people face every day in business.
Why does someone have to lose everything for another person to succeed. The country and the people accept negative news quickly and are quick to judge. Every is presumed guilty.
We have become a culture moving too fast, doing too much and negative. We are ready to throw a punch at someone standing in a long line. Our anger is on the surface. There are so many victims as a result of this anger.
In the case of Tom Cruise, he insulted women all over the world. He also soundly "stupid" in talking about medication. With so many people on medication for anxiety and depression, you would think Tom Cruise might have a little understanding.
He ridiculed women and all people suffering with aniety and depression. It showed a "stupidity" that is unforgivable.
In Pat Kingsley's case, one woman brought her down. I have experinced the loss of reputation from one woman's actions. I know what it feels like to work all your life and to have someone want to be you, have what you have and try to take it.
I have never understood why people can't share with someone. Why do we as a culture have to destroy in order to get. Where is the kindness? Where is our humanity?
There are some situations hard to forgive and others where we must forgive. Tom Cruise's beliefs and personality were carefully hidden for so many years. Leaving Pat Kinglsey has prooved to be his demise.
Tom Cruise's behavior on Oprah was bizaar. No one believed his couch jumping love. It was not believable or just too "nuts" for the public. His aggressive and seemingly tunneled vision has "come out" and hurt him.
The public wants to love their "stars". The public doesn't want to love some angry and apparently demeaning. He has permanently lost a big part of his audience.
His downfall is understandable. Mel Gibson will also never enjoy his popularity and support. The public cannot tolerate a man who has hate in his heart. No boycott is necessary. Mel Gibson deserved to lose his audience because he hates so many people. His fall is understandable.
Pat Kingsley and other people in business in similar positions do not deserve to be ruined. Thier downfall comes at the hands of some "wannabe". A few accusation and some bad publicity and people "dump" Pat and people like her. In this situation, the people around should be more loyal and supportive.
We have to learn to distinguish between good people who are being treated poorly and those who deserve to lose our respect. We do not distinguish between the two. We have to become more sensitive and give people the benefit before we rush to judgement.
Until we "slow" down, the stress we all feel everyday, the pressures we all feel everyday and the ahger lying an inch away from exploding will prevent us from being decent and kind. Let's say goodbye to Tom Cruise and Mel Gbison, but have more tenderness for those people who worked hard and are decent.

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oldbridgenjNOKILLshelter
THE FRIENDS OF THE ANIMAL RESCUE SHELTER MEET TO ORGANIZE.
Wednesday, august 16, this volunteer group met at Java Joint in Old Bridge. The coffee was great and the work getting done is even better.
We did not know it was a tarot reading night, so we had to be sensitive and respectful, I brought my new Maltese pup, named Ali. Barbara and Ali fell in love leaving the rest of us to organize the upcoming "fairs" , the newsletter and the blog.
September 10 and 11 this friends group will be inviting people to support us by coming to the evets and purchasing some of or items.
Our newsletter will have several unique features. Our blog is open and ready to hear your comments.

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EBAY PAYPAL, PLEASE STOP USING THOSE SECURITY CODES YOU CAN'T READ

Did you ever try to sign into EBAY, PAYPAL or those type of accounts? First you put your user name, then your password and then they offer up some very strange letters or numbers for you to put in. I personally can't read the numbers. I can't figure out whether they are checking your eyes or just messing with you. Once you have put in your user name and password, what is the purpose of putting some letters in you can barely read. What kind of security check is this?
Even if someone had your code, all this would prove is their eyes are better. I hope the sites begin to eliminate these security checks. I am middle aged and my eyes can't read those squirly codes.

ANDERSON COOPER 360, CNN, FOX AND NEWS DU JOUR- JON BENNETT RAMSEY

Its August 18th,2006 and today's news is Jon Bennett Ramsey. I found myself crying yesterday when I heard the news of an arrest. I was upset for the family and how the media, particularly, the news media hounded and convicted this family for the last decade.
For ten years, you heard the Ramsey's were suspects. You did not hear much about the court and the DA dismissing the Ramseys as suspects. Instead, you heard reporters asking the question "do you think they are guilty".
There are at least three problems with the news as the public sees it today. The first is the bias of each station. The second problem is that yesterdays news is "history" . The third problem is that the news is not what it used to be.
The last problem is most disturbing to me. For almost a month I listened to CNN, FOX and MSNBC. I had the television on almost 24/7. The coverage was identical on all three cable news channels. While I wanted to know about the war in Lebanon, there appeared to be no other news but the war.
By the time Anderson Copper 360 came on, I felt like I had been watching a sporting event not a war. Cooper, along with everyone else on cable news was reporting evey rocket being fired. It was a blow by blow "war". I felt like I was listening to "every pitch". I find it barely tolerable in sports, so it was definitely more than I wanted to know about the war.
During the time of their reporting of the war, you heard about nothing but the war. Today, you hear only about Jon Bennett Ramsey and a blow by blow about her killer. The war in the middle east is old news and is therefore gone.
Terrible things have happened in the world in recent years. Katrina destroyed an American city and we hear nothing about the Gulf Coast. The cable news channels give us in depth description of one piece of news all day. They do only the one story all day, kind of "news du jour".
I would prefer to hear updates of what is going around all over the world. I would like to hear about older stories, lets say two or three days old. Yesterday's news is finished.
One more thing, I used to rush to the TV when I saw the words BREAKING NEWS. Years ago, this would mean a breaking news story of major significance. Today, breaking news is a headline which never leaves the screen. How will I know when it is urgent?
Yesterday, with the arrest of Jon Bennett Ramsey's alleged killer, I saw TV reporters talk as about Patsy Ramsey. Some appeared to show feelings about Patsy. Some of those same reporters were asking leading and highly suggestive stories when they covered this case 10 years ago. Some of these same reporters were asking audiences, "Do you believe the Ramsey's killed their daughter?". The reporters helped to shape a convinction in the minds of the American public.It's intolerable to see those same people forget their stories from 10 years ago and act sympathetic.
Reporters are free to say leading comments which often spins the story a certain way. I am distgusted at any show of pathos by reporters. Better they look at themselves from tape 10 years ago and see how they contributed to destroying this family.
There was a time when the news "the News". There was a time when the news was factual and informative. Today it is just another drama. I would prefer to have a channel reporting current stories with updates on older stories. I prefer they provide the facts and not the spin.
Anderson Cooper, please be the first to take off the combat outfit and stop the drama.


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NED LAMONT AND THE DEMOCRATS

I believe the democrats are making a big mistake in not distinguishing between "anti-war" and anti-terrorism". There is nothing in the printed press nor on the magazine shows which indicates a difference.
Americans are not anti-terrorism. The fear of terrorists is great. In pointing to Iraq and claiming anti-war, the Democrats are failing to understand the larger picture. The larger picture clearly shows networks of terrorism with Iraq being key to the story. The housing and the training of terrorists in any country is of concern to us.
Nobody seems to want to focus on the terrorist training happening right here in the United States. South America is a hot bed of terrorist training and there is little mention of it by the Democrats.
If the Dems focus on Iraq they will not gain any seats in the House or the Senate. The blame game sickens all of us. If the Democrats point to Iraq and the Republicans point to national security, it will turn off the American public.
The truth is the Bush pushed us into war without knowledge of the lack of weapons of mass destruction. He was wrong or he lied. The public knows this. The Democrats voted on Iraq based on this misinformation. The public should not hold officials accountable for their vote because they were misled.
The question is, should we be in Iraq? The public feels both ways. Prior to the terror plane threat in London, the public would overwhelmingly said no.Ask the public how they feel today, they would probably say yes.
The truth is Americans are afraid of terrorists. If stability in the region would result in lessening the threat of terrorists, then the vote would be to remain there.
This is all complicated by a large looming problem. The democracy we are helping to create in these countries has resulted in the election of Hamas and Hezbollah as key players in government. We can't dismiss those elections. Instead, we must see the support for terrorism within those states.
There is nothing we can do about democatically elected officials who are known terrorists. This fact should be of concern to us.The Democrats and Republicans are so simplistic in their strategy to win elections. They focus on one issue and both have no world view.
I have yet to see an eletion debate which provokes intelligent thought. I have yet to see a debate which thinks about the future and what the world might look like.
The two parties are already maneuvering to "blame". The parties have not figured out Americans are sick of this type of election. Its petty and makes us turn off.
Take a dozen Americans from any walk of life and they can telegraph the election and mimic the debates.
A friend of mine who is liberal said to me, "wouldn't Iraq be better off with Saddam". To her I say, its not the liberal in you I don't like, its the ignorance of the statement I don't like.
Whether its Republican or Democrat, our concern as a leading country should be for the safety of people in other nations. My personal feelings comes from being a child of survivors of the Holocaust. I was "taught" if "Jewish " people could be targeted so could anybody. The message my parents taught me was not to just worry about Jewish people but to watch for anywhere in the world where human beings are being targetted for no reason.
I say to those who think the people would be better off with Saddam, you obviously don't know how many people he had killed. It is a humanitarian act to get rid of Saddam. I support candidates who want people to have decent lives and not be exposed to hatred, fear and death for their beliefs.
The Republicans and Democrats do not offer clear vision. They spend four years pointing to the faults of the other party.They jump on each others "pereived mistakes". How about a campaign which discusses that state of the world.
The country is sick of the pettiness. Ned Lamont won his election on one issue. He will probably lose the nest election because his focus was Iraq. The country is more scared of terrorists. If Iraq is the central issue, the Democrats are in trouble.
Both parties will do what they have done for years. They will use fear to scare Americans into their vote. The Republicans are partically good at this. They just point to the Democrats and say "do you really want these people to protect you?". I don't and I am a Democrat. I don't trust Demcrats in times of war.
If the Democrats were smart, they would have a larger would view. They consistently change positions. I don't mind if a candidate rethinks an issue. I don't mind if a candidate changes his or her mind. I mind if they change their minds everyday.
Both parties need to make this election be about terrorism in the world. The American public needs to know how we are going to handles the larger picture.


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NICOLE MILLER RADIO COMMERCIAL SUGGESTS NICOLE MILLER "INSPIRED" THE LITTLE BLACK DRESS

Commericals rarely catch my attention these days. The Gecko in Geico catches my attention. The Afflac Duck always catches my attention. A elephant dancing to "Singing in the Rain" caught my attention but I could only remember the elephant dancing.

The other day I listened to a commercial designed to hype the Nocle Miller new furntiure line. The advertising agency took the libery of suggesting the "little black dress" was inspired by Nicole Miller. What the little balck dress has to do with furniture I don't know. I do know Nicole Miller was probably a teenager when Audrey Hepburn "inspired" the little black dress. The little black dress was Hepburn's signature dress.

I don't like misinformation. I like the truth. When I hear a lie or a misrepresnentation, I turn off to the company and to the product. Someone tell Nicole Miller about this commerecial because I do not believe she would condone it.

Enough liberties are already taken in commercials. Using 60's song to say some financial institution relates to you is ridiculous. I know few companies from their advertisements. The Niccole Miller "little black dress" would make me stay away from the furniture. Its stime these people stop lying.

The simpliucity of the duck, the gechko and the elephant is all we need. Its fun the watch and its both Geico and Afflac companies we all know. Its how a commercial should be done. Fun to watch, entertaining, and good company recognition.

Lets let Audrey Hepburn be the one who "inspired" the little black dress.

evie litwok/ tippy/ thetippystory

If Joe Lieberman Loses His Senate Seat tonite, I will Become A Rerpublican ( maybe)

I was originally going to write an article entitled The Reluctant Democrat. I wanted to discuss why its hard to be a democrat at this point in time. Having watched FOX and CNN continuously since July 12th ( due to the war in Israel and Lebanon), I saw the disgusting campaign in Connecticut.

Joe Lieberman is a gentleman. I have never experiencced him to be a negative campaigner. He has a gentle quality. I watched the bloggers and technologically savvy tear him apart. I watched the anti war liberals come out. They are the spoilers of the democratic party. They are liberals only to a point. If Joe Lieberman loses this election, it will be their fault. They will have taken a calm voice out of the senate. I will work hard against these liberals.

I would prefer to call myself a radical. I believe all people have equal righta. I dont' believe the liberals can take that kind of stance, They can spoil an election but they have no spine. Their breaking point is "gay rights". They are so terrified of losing an election that they "moderate" their position when it comes to gay rights.

Take any liberal and you will get a wishy washy politician. They can only stand up for certain things.At least George Bush is who he is. While I am not a fan of George Bush, I respect his ability to focus. I don't agree with him on many issues but I always know where he stands.
With the democratic liberals, you can watch them change their position. Well if a man like Joe Lieberman , who stands for much more then his vote in Iraq, losses this election, I will offer to campaign for him.
There does need to be a third party. Let the liberals have the democratic party. There needs to be a party of humanity. People who care about the liberty of everyone. I don't say this to some like some bubble gum commercial, i just believe that this world and its fears must be conquered. War and more wars will only continue unless there is a committment to understand our own fears and our own prejudice.
The Democratic party has lost its appeal for me. Joe Lieberman is a person willing to negotiate and has palyed an important role in the Senate. I hope the people of Connecticut remember that tonight.

Letlive.org Israel rescue group needs help[ for 8000 animals

A spokeperson from letlive.org was on TV today begging for donations for food for over 8000 misplaced animals. They say conditions are hot, there is no water or food. A donation of $35.00 would feed 50 dogs and cats. Please spread the word and offer assistance.

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Why the TV show "Criminal Minds" is so impressive

I love television and have it on pretty much all day. During the day, I have the cable news shows. CNN is so boviously biased its become hard to watch. FOX, which I never watched, seems to be actually more fair in their reporting.
At night, I need a break from the news. I love good television and I am happy to say we have some great television in shows like Criminal MInds, Cold Case and Without A Trace.
I tried to figure out why these particular shows are so great to watch. "Ciminal Minds" was my latest addition and I see how involved I am with the characters and how much the characters are involved with each other. Each of these shows offer not only an intriguing plot, or story line, but they offer something fresh, a realtionship between the cast.
In more recent years there have ben other regular shows I enjoyed. I lost interest in the stories because while the story was good, there was no relationship between the characters. I loved but have stopped watching the "CSI" shows for this reason. I loved but have stopped watching the "Law and Order" series for the same reason.
While the drama of "CSI" and "Law & Order" was also great, mininal work was done on the characters interacting.
At this time in our lives, with so many diaffected people and so much war, there is a need to know we can all get along regardless of our "diverse" bakcgrounds.
The cast of "Ciminal MInds" is such a different and rich cast. Each character has a clear personality and the group is solidly together respecting the difference in their characters. This keeps me watching as much as the plot from the show. Its the dynamics I need at this point in MY TV.
Television has always been a reflection of the culture, and I see a handful of shows steeping up to meet the "new" need. We need each other. We all need to relate to each other regardless of our differences. We need to care again. Criminal Minds, Cold Case, and Without A Trace are shows with feelings and shows that bring out feelings. The reality/ survivor shows reflected the cultures disaffection. These shows offer up feelings. I need these kind of show today.