TOM CRUISE

For most of his career, Tom Cruise was under the guidance of Pat Kingsley, the reknown publicist and head of PMK. His career and career moves were enormously successful. The persona the public saw was one they liked.
Tom Cruise's personality and character was carefully hidden through the guidance of Pat Kingsley. Since she fwas fired as his publicist, the carefully crafted career took a nose dive.
Interesting enough, Pat Kingley, a long time reknown publicist, also faltered. Her own firm was usurped from her by a younger and trusted partner.
Both have one thing in common. They both spent a lifetime building and establishing their respective success. Both enjoyed wonderful reputations. Finally, both of their careers went into freefall.
The building of a career happens over twenty years and the fall takes "one comment" or one day. It doesn't only happen to the "Hollywood elite", it happens in everyday life. Its a reflection of the culture.
In some cases, the reaction is not surprising. Tom Crtuise lost his female audience from his comments about Brook Shields. His insensitivy, his arrogance ( after all , he never had a baby and couldn't possibly know what it feels like)were reflected in his statement about post preganancy. The female population, representing 50% of his audience sighed a collective "ugh".
You cannot fix an "ignorant" self serving comment. Tom Cruise showed the public who he was and the public responded. Fair or unfair, the public is fast to judge. There is no room for error with the public.
Pat Kingsley had an excellent reputation and was the premier publicist for many in Hollywood. An article about her company with a story about a divide between her and a younger partner seems to have split up business leaving Pat Kingsley out of the loop.
Pat carefully guided actors for twenty years. I was sad to see her put in a bad light. She was ousted for business reasons. If what I read was true, her fall came from an agressive younger partner and not something she said or did.
Pat Kingleys situation is different from Tom Cruise. To have a reputation for so many years and to be put out by someone is a nightmare. This is a problem many people face every day in business.
Why does someone have to lose everything for another person to succeed. The country and the people accept negative news quickly and are quick to judge. Every is presumed guilty.
We have become a culture moving too fast, doing too much and negative. We are ready to throw a punch at someone standing in a long line. Our anger is on the surface. There are so many victims as a result of this anger.
In the case of Tom Cruise, he insulted women all over the world. He also soundly "stupid" in talking about medication. With so many people on medication for anxiety and depression, you would think Tom Cruise might have a little understanding.
He ridiculed women and all people suffering with aniety and depression. It showed a "stupidity" that is unforgivable.
In Pat Kingsley's case, one woman brought her down. I have experinced the loss of reputation from one woman's actions. I know what it feels like to work all your life and to have someone want to be you, have what you have and try to take it.
I have never understood why people can't share with someone. Why do we as a culture have to destroy in order to get. Where is the kindness? Where is our humanity?
There are some situations hard to forgive and others where we must forgive. Tom Cruise's beliefs and personality were carefully hidden for so many years. Leaving Pat Kinglsey has prooved to be his demise.
Tom Cruise's behavior on Oprah was bizaar. No one believed his couch jumping love. It was not believable or just too "nuts" for the public. His aggressive and seemingly tunneled vision has "come out" and hurt him.
The public wants to love their "stars". The public doesn't want to love some angry and apparently demeaning. He has permanently lost a big part of his audience.
His downfall is understandable. Mel Gibson will also never enjoy his popularity and support. The public cannot tolerate a man who has hate in his heart. No boycott is necessary. Mel Gibson deserved to lose his audience because he hates so many people. His fall is understandable.
Pat Kingsley and other people in business in similar positions do not deserve to be ruined. Thier downfall comes at the hands of some "wannabe". A few accusation and some bad publicity and people "dump" Pat and people like her. In this situation, the people around should be more loyal and supportive.
We have to learn to distinguish between good people who are being treated poorly and those who deserve to lose our respect. We do not distinguish between the two. We have to become more sensitive and give people the benefit before we rush to judgement.
Until we "slow" down, the stress we all feel everyday, the pressures we all feel everyday and the ahger lying an inch away from exploding will prevent us from being decent and kind. Let's say goodbye to Tom Cruise and Mel Gbison, but have more tenderness for those people who worked hard and are decent.

evie litwok/ tippy/ the tippy story